Who Am I Going to Be?
I'm thinking of changing my name. I didn't change it when I got married for all the reasons that many women don't change their names.
But now that I've had my baby girl, and she shares a last name with her daddy, I want to share a last name with both of them. I don't want to be the odd woman out.
I am sad that there isn't a solution to the name-changing debacle. I've already bought this URL, so I think I'll keep it and remain "Joy Surles" professionally, but I'll be "Joy Gaddy" personally.
It is funny...what marriage couldn't change about my identity, motherhood can.
There are other things I want to change. I realized recently that I haven't moved around much in the last, oh, couple of years. From being pregnant to the rigors of being a mom to a new baby, I've gotten lazy. I eat very well, but without some physical activity, I won't be in the best health I can be...and my sweet baby girl needs to have a healthy mama around for a long time. I want to make a commitment to myself to exercise a bit more often.
I also want to write more. The drought of posting on this blog is indicative of my writing life these days. I write a lot professionally, but lately, I write very little personally. I update the blog for our daughter, but otherwise, I don't do much writing for myself anymore. There are so many small projects inside me, and I'd like to bring them to fruition. I just can't quite find the time.
But I'm going to tell myself what I'd tell a student: start small. Make a commitment to engaging the practice of writing every day, and do it faithfully. I want to work on my memoir, but it's hard to conceive of where to start; however, I can start here, by posting a little bit, now and then, faithfully.
I miss my old self, and I'm excited about who I'm going to be. It seems that birth never stops happening.
But now that I've had my baby girl, and she shares a last name with her daddy, I want to share a last name with both of them. I don't want to be the odd woman out.
I am sad that there isn't a solution to the name-changing debacle. I've already bought this URL, so I think I'll keep it and remain "Joy Surles" professionally, but I'll be "Joy Gaddy" personally.
It is funny...what marriage couldn't change about my identity, motherhood can.
There are other things I want to change. I realized recently that I haven't moved around much in the last, oh, couple of years. From being pregnant to the rigors of being a mom to a new baby, I've gotten lazy. I eat very well, but without some physical activity, I won't be in the best health I can be...and my sweet baby girl needs to have a healthy mama around for a long time. I want to make a commitment to myself to exercise a bit more often.
I also want to write more. The drought of posting on this blog is indicative of my writing life these days. I write a lot professionally, but lately, I write very little personally. I update the blog for our daughter, but otherwise, I don't do much writing for myself anymore. There are so many small projects inside me, and I'd like to bring them to fruition. I just can't quite find the time.
But I'm going to tell myself what I'd tell a student: start small. Make a commitment to engaging the practice of writing every day, and do it faithfully. I want to work on my memoir, but it's hard to conceive of where to start; however, I can start here, by posting a little bit, now and then, faithfully.
I miss my old self, and I'm excited about who I'm going to be. It seems that birth never stops happening.
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